Feeling A Little Left Out

So...I've mentioned that my husband and some of our friends from college (who were pretty much all at some point his roommate in one form or another) have a little group blog. And that's neat, I enjoy reading it. But on the other hand...I consider them my friends too. We all hung out together. And while no, I didn't room with them, they really were my main group of friends in college and I thought there was some common ground. I really didn't think it was "humor the girlfriend/fiance/wife" (went through all of those phases).

Apparently I was wrong.

One of the guys (the last hold out) is getting married in the spring. I'm very excited for him and had mentally blocked off the time in our calendar to make the journey up to Mass. for said wedding. Well, another of the guys' wife just got pregnant so she is not going to come (plus she's a teacher and unless it happens to be spring break wouldn't be able to swing the time off.) And then I see the next post...basically saying "let's all fly into the same airport around the same time so the three of us can share a car." I took off my shoes and counted, but no matter how I counted, I came up with four. Me, Tim, and the other two guys sans wives. Then it occurred to me.

They're expecting Tim to come sans wife too.

And I'm a bit hurt and feeling a bit left out. But if that's really what they'd prefer, I can be gracious about it. I just need to readjust my perception of who was really my friend and who just humored the hanger on. And the crappy realization that comes along with it is that, if that really is the case, I pretty much had no friends in college. And right on its heels come the question: do any of our current friends actually like me, or do they put up with me to be able to hang out with Tim?

So we circle right back around to a similar conversation I've already had here about my propensity for being friends to people and never realizing that they don't want to be my friend, but they're happy to accept whatever I might give. I guess the key is to figure out if I can just be ok with that. And if I can, great. And if not, then I need to find a way to just get over it.