*Don't worry, you'll figure it out as you keep reading.
So last night, my sister and I toddled off to Cosco to purchase the rib roast and green beans for Christmas dinner. It may seem odd to do this at Cosco, but honestly? Their meat is some of the best I've tasted (with the notable exception of their hamburger meat. I'm not sure what's wrong with their ground beef but it's....icky. I will still be trodding the aisles of Safeway for my ground beef.) And they had "French Green Beans", also known as haricots verts or "the long skinny green beans", so all was well. In discussing the menu with my sister as we stood in the produce aisle, I began to doubt the sufficiency of my plans. "No bread?" she asked. "Well, Yorkshire Pudding is bread-like, it's certainly in the carb family." says I. "But it's dessert, right?" asks she. "No. Or at least, I don't think it is. You put gravy on it. It's savory. And not really any kind of pudding." says I. "Hmmm." says she. So we consider a few moments before deciding that, ultimately, we'll just have more dessert if people are feeling left out of the carb department. Which then leads to the quite natural question of what will be for dessert.
I haven't the foggiest idea.
I've considered plum pudding, since it seems that we're leaning toward a rather British meal anyway. But, as with Yorkshire pudding, I've never had one so I don't know if it's something that would go over. There's always apple pie or apple strudel, two solid stand ins that never fail to please. But they don't seem particularly Christmas-y. What do you all have for Christmas dessert?
Anyway, ingredients in hand, we proceeded toward the front of the vast warehouse of bargains you don't need and I was taken in by little golden books and tinker toys and lincoln logs and all manner of things for small children. And my sister, bless her, reminded me that you can't give an infant tinker toys or lincoln logs and that I should read "real books" to the child so that he learns how to form more than one word sentences. I bought the books anyway and left the tinker toys on the shelf with just a few longing backward glances. But we did also buy a box of diapers and a box of wipes.
And here is where the dilemma arises. See, I am exceedingly tempted by the idea of cloth diapers. They've come a long way since the days of wimpy quilted white things and big pins. And honestly? While I would never in a million years consider myself an environmentalist, at the end of the day I have a very tough time justifying putting diapers, full of human waste, into landfills that are not designed to handle human waste. Let alone the fact that diapers take an immeasurably long time to biodegrade - so long in fact that you really are better off just saying that they don't decompose at all. And at 12 - 14 diapers a day for the first few months and only slightly fewer thereafter...well...that's a lot. Ignorance, in this case, would certainly for me be bliss. Because knowing this makes me cringe and seriously consider alternative options. Which in turn makes the majority of our friends laugh derisively and begin taking bets on how long we would actually last using cloth. (Which of course makes me want to do it and stick with it just to make them give me the money. Hey, we're gonna have a kid, we could use it!)
So, on seeing the diapers Tim gave me a quizzical look. I explained that even as pro-cloth as I am, I really don't see myself using them on car trips or travel because who wants to tote dirty dipes around longer than necessary? He agreed with the sanity of this decision. "Besides," I pointed out, "This box has 240 diapers. At just 10 a day, which is low for a newborn I'm told, this'll only last a month." Tim eyed the ginormous box skeptically, "A month?" "Or thereabout," I shrugged. "How much was it?" he asks and I can see the gears clicking in his brain. "About $40." At that point he simply swallowed audibly, but I think he might be warming up to the idea of cloth a little more seriously. We haven't really decided one way or the other - but it's something that is currently eating up a good portion of my spare brain cycles.
Also - anyone introduced a newborn to a dog (or dogs) before? I've read up on the various ideas recommended by la Internet, but would be curious to hear real experiences. I'm hesitant, for example, to attempt to locate and then flood my house with the sounds of a baby crying. If it really would help, I would do it. But...if it's not going to help the dogs, I'd just as soon maintain my own sanity for just that much longer.
I'm thinking maybe this weekend we can paint the nursery. We bought the paint on Sunday. And the cloud Wallies. I had to order the airplane Wallies. But I think they'll go nicely with the new quilt for the double bed that's staying in there (and will eventually be his big boy bed). And if it's a girl (which is a possibility to some degree), then she'll just have to like airplanes. I like airplanes, so it shouldn't be too big of a stretch. Now I just need to find a cute airplane lamp that isn't too cheesy.
Finally, what would you consider the absolute necessities for taking to pick up the baby? Obviously the car seat (duh) and some clothes (do I have to wash those first? Is All Free & Clear ok for that?) and bottles and diapers and wipes. But are there any other traveling necessities that you just wouldn't leave home without? (He'll be borrowing a pack n play with a bassinet thingy, so the bed is taken care of). And it's not like we'll be in the boonies - so is there stuff that we'll need that we can just buy down there vs. hauling with us? (We're driving, so there is more room than if we were to fly.) And how soon is too soon to start putting stuff aside/packing it? Cause if she's right on time, we've got 20 days.
4 days ago
Its never too soon to start setting things aside and packing things that you KNOW you're taking and dont need between here and there...this also gives you a visual on how much you're currently buying. :)
ReplyDeleteIts sad that I will no longer be a major source of practical advice. At least I can still give you the theoretical, given my education at work.
Beth I have zero experience with the cloth or disposable dilenma, but here is a gal who has thought it all through from the environmentally conscious angle and maybe there's something here that speaks to you. Stacie is the daughter of a dear friend of mine, mother of two very adorable twins.
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So very excited for you!
I can't say much for the disposable/cloth diaper dilemma, either, but it seems wise to have bought at least some disposable. And $40 for that many...good deal. I know they've come a long way, but my mom said it was one thing that stressed her out. Made more work for her. If it works for you, great, but if it adds too much stress to having a new born in the house then skip it. At least at first.
ReplyDeleteAs for detergent, I don't know about All Free and Clear, if it's gentle it's probably good. It all depends on how sensitive the baby's skin is. By baby #2 in this house I used our regular detergent but rinsed his clothes twice...no problem. A friend could only use Dreft for her daughter or she'd get a little rash. Some have diaper sensitivity too...one brand works another doesn't. Yes, wash the clothes first before baby wears them.
When we introduced our boys to the dogs Brian brought home one of the baby's hats that they give at the hospital so the baby could sniff before we came home. I don't know if that would work in your situation or not, but ours were very interested in it and they were fine with the baby. When I came home I also had Brian carry in the baby so I could say hi to the dogs. We had no problems.
To the hospital bring clothes (outfit for hospital picture), blankets, bottles (probably won't need them in the hospital, just on the way home...in my experience they had prefilled ones to use in hospital. Snag extras if you can. They are handy!
And, yep, pack what you can now.
Whew, I hope I didn't wear you out with that answer. I wish you all the best and am so happy that you've finally gotten some good news on this front. You're in my prayers.
Washing the clothes might be a good idea first, just in case the baby has sensitive skin (ours did). We went with Dreft.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
We went with Tide Free, and that works well enough.
ReplyDeleteOkay, you will need alcohol and Q-tips to swab the umbilical stump. Vaseline, if he's circumicised, to treat that. Bring burp cloths (I use the heavy cloth diapers and they make fabulous burp cloths), receiving blankets (to line the Pack and Play and to swaddle him). They make this really cool device called a Swaddler (Babies R Us sells it) that you can velcro the baby in. My newborn son LOVES his and it keeps him from flailing around in his sleep. Bottles, formula, diaper bag, diapers, wipes, maybe a night light because you'll be up in the middle of the night for feedings and you don't want to flip the lights on...
Oh, heck, I should just call you. :)
I know nothing about baby washing stuff but I recommend having a Christmas pudding with coins buried in it. That's a British/NZ tradition!
ReplyDeleteLynellen - you're still a font of good research and common sense, so I'm expecting plenty of continued suggestions. And you're right - setting stuff aside now is probably v. smart if only to keep me from going overboard in the stores. :)
ReplyDeleteGwen - thanks for the links, there's some good info there!
Jennifer - that's just the kind of dog story/advice I was looking for. Thanks.
Steven - Thanks. More laundry, here I come. :)
Michelle - I'll bring a notepad on Saturday and scribble maniacally. Thanks for the list - the umbilical stump had completely escaped my mind.
Rach - Oooh, that sounds yummy! I'll have to poke around for a recipe (unless you have one you want to recommend?)
see, now if you had taken me up (in your magical free time) on the videos i wanted you to watch, the umbilical stump would have been something you learned about
ReplyDeletebut no...you insisted you wanted to sleep and that you have homework.
whatever :)
I couldn't get your blog to stay open while I was at work yesterday so I'm late to the comment party, as usual. Here's my 2 cents:
ReplyDelete1. Yorkshire Pudding - We always have rolls with our dinner in addition to the pud.
2. We have pumpkin pie and chocolate-eggnog pie for dessert. And Christmas cookies, of course.
3. I considered cloth diapers for about 5 minutes. Being a working Mom, I figured the work involved with cloth diapers would send be 'round the bend. I've not had a second thought about using disposables.
As for brand - watch baby's bottom to see if he gets diaper rash if you switch up the brands. We've gone to lower cost generics for regular use, but if he has diaper rash or will be in a place where changing it is tough, we'll use the higher end diapers. He gets a high end diaper overnight, too.
We started with the Pampers Swaddlers when he was newborn - they were nice and soft and super stretchy as he grew. Now we use whatever is cheapest.
4. Baby laundry - we use Dreft.
5. Books/Toys - buy whatever you want! So he won't use the Tinker Toys now. You can save them for when he is old enough. And there's nothing wrong with baby books - he'll chew on them in the beginning anyway. Reading will come however you see fit to teach him.
6. What to take - I'm not sure where you're going, but you'll want to have enough diapers per day, formula per day (we use distilled water instead of tap or regular bottled water, btw), 2-3 outfits per day, swaddler with velcro (MUST!), plenty of burp cloths/bibs/receiving blankets.
7. My advice - follow your instincts. Listen to what other parents have to say since they do have experience, but do what your gut tells you is right for your kid. You will know him better than anyone else and that's all that matters. You'll end up throwing out most of the advice you get.
8. One last thing - remember to fold his little willie down into the diaper for the first couple of months or you'll have serious leaks at the top of the diaper.